Homosocial: Who's Love Are You Really Searching For?

Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus. The battle of the sexes is ancient. But something new is happening.The battle of the sexes has always been with us.But in the age of algorithms, something has changed.Men and women are not just fighting each other. They are performing for each other's replacements — for the homosocial audiences that social media has made more present, more rewarding, and more powerful than any actual relationship.The man optimizing his body, his status, his image — he is not doing it for women. He is doing it for men.The woman curating her standards, her worth, her carefully maintained guard — she is not doing it for men. She is doing it for women.Homosocial love has quietly overtaken heterosexual love. And the loneliness data combined with unprecedented political diversion tells the story of what that costs.Homosocial is a fearless, clear-eyed deconstruction of modern romantic dysfunction — who built the machine, how it runs, and what becomes possible when you finally decide to turn it off. Read more